Friends or Foes?

In life, there’s always people who doesn’t like you. There are times when we take care of them, the people we proudly call them our staffs, our friends, our colleagues, our bosses. There’s a time when they turns against us. Staffs who make fun of us, they have no idea what if we were not showing them our mercy in working life. Now, when they are not under us anymore, they mock us, they put us as if we are the only one to blame for.

They just don’t know how stupid they are until you show them who they really are, when we don’t act as a shield between them and the top managements. Some of them are practically just idiot. They don’t have “thanks” in their heart for what have we done for them, they practically don’t remember when we at first recruiting them among hundreds of people.

Not so far also with people who we call friends, colleagues. I treat them almost everyday back then, and now they just don’t remember and even try to call me. Only one of them is still contacting me sometimes. He is my best friend, colleague and once staff after all, I don’t think in the future I will find anyone better than him. His character is outstanding, he works with me late until morning, he offers much help, he asks after he bloodily working on his assignment and still can’t solve it, he become a smoker after working with me for a bit (anyway, that was my satisfaction, he follow his boss’s lifestyle), he loves women and loves to drink (once again follow his boss’s lifestyle).

I manage to save my friend’s asses in front of my bosses, when they were in trouble. Those moments I did for people I called friends, are gone in the past. People tend not to remember the past and move forward. It’s good at some level, but when they forget good person who helped them in the past, it’s kind of showing who they are in the future. They might or might not succeed in the future, it has nothing to do with they forgetting us. It’s a reminder for us to choose to hang out with people who purely supports us and not gonna forget about us, people who understand the concept of return the favor. {click to tweet}

I conduct some experiment back then just to know who my friends really are. So I call each of them and asking them to help me financially since I’m in deep misery. They have all their excuses :

  1. Not Answering my call or my messages.
  2. “Sorry, I just bought an apartment, so I don’t have anything left to lend you”
  3. “Who are you? Is this scam?”
  4. “Sorry, I don’t have the money”

Their sorry bullshit saying keep ringing in my ears, so this is who they actually are! This is when my concept on only loves who loves you back arise. Those kind of responses only leave me a question, “Why don’t you just say, how much do you need? I will help if I have!”

They just break the whole relationship with those sorry words. Sorry is never enough! People won’t help you when you are in trouble, because they are selfish. Sooner or later in their life, they will see all people leaving them for good. God damn selfish bastard!

But life never stop when friends don’t help you. They will not become your foes just because of that, but you will not contact them, you will not care for them anymore, you don’t even give a damn when they die or in deep shit.

We have to keep going on living this life, with a concept of success is our great revenge!


I would appreciate your opinion about this matter, so that we can learn from each other better to live this life abundantly!


Prostitution Over The Years : REASONS?

Why men hire prostitute? It’s probably the most stupid question if you ask the right men. Men from any status (married? single? widower?) will come to a point that there’s a thought to hire a prostitute.

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When they hire a prostitute? (alone? frigid wife? fantasies? social pressures?). Who would they hire? (professional prostitutes? high class prostitutes? street prostitute?). How they hire a prostitute? (through friends? social media? agencies? streets?).

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Some reasons men hire prostitute are even simpler than what we assume. These reasons are a denial of common logic, “why i do that, because of this. If this not happening, then I will not do that“. You have a choice of not doing that EVEN if you are having these!. Here they are :

  1. Taste different experiences with other women, especially the HOT ones. What are these experiences?
    • Fantasy : they want to live up their fantasies that can’t be done with their wives, girlfriends or any other women.
    • Caring Experience : well-paid prostitute don’t complain as much as their wives or girlfriends, and with their GFE (girl-friend-experience), prostitute can be more caring than other women, and even they will provide man with the After-Sex bed talk when he can easily talking about secrets to a stranger.
    • Experiment : Addiction at higher level makes someone hunger for experiments with a woman. It can lead to a kinky or even nastier situation that is unthinkable. Maybe, it will lead to, even a beating or … killing.
  2. Opportunities. Going away for business trips or travelling outside the countries, every men’s thought has been tempted to taste local “cuisine”. When there’s opportunity to be alone and without anyone watch, they would go for the temptation.
  3. Simplicity. Call a number, Waiting for “the service” to come, Having “the service”, Payments, and Goodbye. No strings attached.
  4. Woman’s Blindness. “Oh no, you don’t know him like a do”, “He is a good guy”, “He is the love of my life”, “I know who he is exactly, his sacrifice for this relationship”, He Will Never Do That. Some women are blinded with man’s character, and some “good” men prey on that, making it easier to cheat on woman and going with prostitutes.
  5. The Belief that AIDS and other worst disease will never get unto them. How easy men can just ignore the facts that it can happen! It happen, and when the time come, regrets, begging for forgiveness not gonna cut out, rather than just Accept and Move Forward.

These days, social media and internet are side-by-side supports these prostitution, and the arguments always gonna be “We are not responsible for third-party advertisements”. Just look at what happen with! They still survive until now. I don’t have super extensive knowledge about Law, but I know about common sense and doing what is right.

The backpage case has been in years, and they always hide under Section 230, “No provider or user of an interactive computer service shall be treated as the publisher or speaker of any information provided by another information content provider“.

Prostitution itself is big, but child-trafficking? It’s unthinkable. So, if a porn website put an underage porn content in their website, it’s illegal, but what backpage doing is not. I have to be a rebellion on this, Law was made to be broken. Lex iniusta lex non est — St. Augustine. In the end, I think law is above humanity. {click to tweet}

Sometimes, Governments are afraid to make a move to organizations. They have too many reasons why not doing the right things in the first place. They have power, yet they are powerless or choose to be powerless, hiding under their silence and pretending things doesn’t happen.

Things happen, and it happen with children. Is it not enough to make a move? To straighten things up?

But more look at it, parents also have significant part on the growing of prostitution. Divorce, Broken Family, Fail Marriage has become the undeniable factor for increasing in prostitution among child. So, my message to all parents, GET YOUR MARRIAGE IN PLACE! Listen to Amy Waterman if you need so!

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I would appreciate your opinion about this matter, so that we can learn from each other better to live this life abundantly!

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