That is life! That is just what you do in life, you hit harder. You experience, you accept, you plan, you hit back harder. People tend to look for happiness. Well, let me say to you, I found happiness already when I eat. I found it when I drive, I found it when I play games, I talk, I share, I think, I experience.
How many times I have heard these words over and over again? It's a complete nonsense, even not practical among religious people unless you are a God. Not to "fall" into this category is pretty much impossible.