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We all wants to be happy. We were born, enjoy our childhood, went to schools then we fall in love and we got married. We got ourselves an image of us and through the years, we watch him grow. We fight with each others, we argue, and we got old then we stop fighting, we take care of each other more.

It’s a path of every human’s life. We die when we get old and no more drama in the grave. If we know where our life are taking us, what path lies ahead of us, we might just want to quit now, or can’t wait to experience the future ahead.

Chris Gardner is a caring father who love his son and his wife but things are tough. As a sales person he choose wrong product to sell. It was unnecessary luxury and expensive. He went for work after taking his kid to some sort of children’s daycare, while his wife works a double shift. If he only able to sell 2 scanners per month, it will be enough for rent and stuffs. The problem is he didn’t sold any of it for a while.

One day, he bump into a great looking guy with great looking car, and he asked “what do you do? and how you do it?” He said, “stockbroker! and it’s easy if you good with numbers and with people” Then Chris talked to himself,”they look so happy, and why (y in the happyness) can’t I look so happy?

Then in the night he talked to her wife, I will roll for broker trainee program because I’m good with numbers when I’m in schools. His wife replied sarcastically,”oh a broker? why not an astronaut?”, “People will never believe what you are capable of, rather than convince them, make a determination on what you believe” {click to tweet}

The next days, he rolled in for a broker trainee program. The movie show us how he tried to persuade people to take him in. The day before he engaged for an interview, he was being jailed for ticket failure payment. Then, in the interview day, he showed up with his “casual” dress, and miraculously he made it.

He spent 6 months without payment in the trainee program, and have to change place to sleep between these months, still selling scanners. He has to go through the hard works calling people, persuade them to talk about the products the company has, and that’s not enough time to do, until one day, he just approach the top guy in a company and tried to persuade him.

Zero result, he never get the top person, but he has good networking with other people, and begin to talk to them. Anyway, I know some insurance people is never taking good care of people, they persuade so that they can get the bonus, the commission, it’s a marketing life, no one being blame of. At some points, we need to market ourselves. It’s never easy, and it will take months maybe years for people realize who we are and why they can trusts us.

That Chris Gardner’s DETERMINATION is paid-off, when the “judgement day” came, finally he got a job he wants, and he is very good at it and he has passion at it. This is the part where we call it HAPPINESS.

All of us has brain, we know what we want to do, but what makes difference is how far we wan to go, how determined are we, and do we want to sacrifice for a better life.

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Women are interesting. How much we know about them? Not much! We will still be amazed on why they do what they do. That’s maybe what makes we love them or hate them.

What they know about men? Men are open books. They read them well, their intuition is top notch. Relationship is never been easy for both, it’s a stream of love and hate. People even said,”settle it with sex!” That’s hilarious!

The first job of relationship has to be borne by men. In some countries, a woman approaching man first is inappropriate, but it could be a bless for singles.

There are more women than men in some countries, such as Lithuania, Russia and Armenia, and that could be an advantage so men will have more choice than women. But love doesn’t count, right? A young man would rather marry a 50-year-old lady than young women. It may happened in every country in the world.

The meaning of love maybe not as much as when we fall in love at the first time. Seeing a beautiful woman and make a move on her is two different thing which could take years for some man, even though, the woman also has the same feeling for the man.

It’s tragic, isn’t it? Isn’t it much better to get rejected then get over with it, rather than dreaming a “what if” situations? If you want, you could just say, “I love You” to every women you meet the first time, just like what those You Tubers did in their content.

In my opinion, don’t waste time on someone who doesn’t care to you. Just say what you have to say without the thought of scary rejection! Rejections are very normal, because we have preference. I reject two jobs and decided to do my businesses.

Did I get enough money for doing business? Nope at first, but businesses are the same as build a tower. Did you get to see the beautiful scene without climbing it? No.

Relationship is the same. It’s about building our connection with a woman or women, depends, in some countries, you can have more than one wife.

What makes a man or a woman doesn’t get their love with each others maybe simpler than we thought. Their thoughts of I Am Not Worth is the only reason. You are worth everything, but if you think you are worth but you don’t change the way you should be loved, you still not going to get the relationship you want. It’s fact!

Both woman and man might not understand each other’s well, but it doesn’t mean you can give up on the relationship. In the end of the day, don’t you want to say, “Isn’t she beautiful?”

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